If you’re new to the series, I’m putting my mom on a diet (because she asked me to, and I’ve lost 135 pounds myself (naturally). So here’s what you need to know: Part 1, here is the plan I designed for her, and here are her weekly updates: week 1, week 2, week 3, week 4, week 5, week 6, week 7, week 8, week 9, week 10, week 11, week 12, week 13, week 14, week 15, week 16, week 17, week 18, week 19, 1 month eating on her own, 1 year later.
Breakfast: Ezekiel Sprouted Grain Cinnamon Raisin English Muffin (160) + 1 tablespoon Teddie all-natural peanut butter (100) + 1 banana (100) = 360
Lunch: 1 Joseph’s Flax, Oat Bran, and Whole Wheat Lavash Bread (100) + 3 ounces Dietz & Watson maple-glazed ham (90) + 1 ounce Hoffman’s sliced cheddar cheese (110) + 2 teaspoons yellow mustard (10) + lettuce and tomato (15) = 325
+ 1 cup red grapes (60) = 385
Snack: 1/2 ounce walnuts (about 12 = 100) + 1 ounce Pink Lady apple (100) = 200
2 slices whole grain bakery bread (200) + 1 tablespoon mayonnaise (90) + 4 slices hickory-smoked bacon (140) + lettuce and tomato (15) = 445
Dessert: Skinny Cow Ice Cream Sandwich (150)
same B, L as Monday
Snack: Pink Lady apple (100)
Dinner: 4 ounces slow cooked pot roast (~60 calories per ounce (240) + ~60 for sauce = 300) + 1 1/2 cups potatoes and carrots, cooked with the pot roast in the slow cooker (~250) + 1/2 cup steamed green peas (60) = 610
Dessert: Skinny Cow Salted Caramel Pretzel Frozen Candy Bar (160)
same B, L, S as Monday
Dinner: Bunless cheeseburger (4 ounces cooked 85% lean ground beef (60 calories per ounce = 240 total) + ½ ounce Cheddar cheese (50)= 290) + 1 Parker House roll (120) + 1 1/2 cups zucchini, summer squash, and cherry tomatoes (~30) sauteed with garlic in 1 teaspoon olive oil (30) + 1 ear corn on the cob (~100) = 570
same B, L as Monday
Out to dinner: Bunless cheeseburger (8 ounces of 85% lean ground beef = 480 + 100 calories for 1 ounce of cheese =580) + 2 tablespoons ketchup (40) + side salad (~100 including dressing) = 720
Breakfast: 1 1/2 cups Special K Red Berries (165) + 1 cup 1% milk (110) = 275
Out to lunch: Grilled chicken wrap with lettuce, tomato, and yellow mustard (500)
Dinner: 1 serving Butter Crumb Baked Haddock (substituting haddock for cod = 300) + 1 1/2 cups roasted butternut squash and red potato (oiled, salted, peppered = 250) = 550
Dessert: 1 Skinny Cow Salted Caramel Pretzel Frozen Candy Bar (160)
Breakfast: 1 1/2 cups Special K Red Berries (165) + 1 banana (100) + 1 cup 1% milk (110) = 375
Lunch: PB&J Wrap: 1 Joseph’s Flax, Oat Bran, & Whole Wheat Lavash (100) + 2 tablespoons natural peanut butter (200) + 2 tablespoons Bonne Maman strawberry preserves (100) = 400
+ 1 cup red grapes (60) = 460
Out to dinner: Grilled chicken salad with honey mustard dressing (~600)
Dessert: Skinny Cow Ice Cream Sandwich (150)
No breakfast; Mom slept in.
Lunch: 1 Joseph’s Flax, Oat Bran, and Whole Wheat Lavash (100) + 3 ounces all-natural turkey breast, thinly sliced (90) + 1 ounce sliced Cheddar cheese (100) + 2 teaspoons French’s honey mustard (20) = 310
+ 1 cup red grapes (60) = 370
Dinner: 4 ounces roasted turkey (from a whole roasted bird, ~160) + 1/2 cup mashed potatoes (~200) + 1/2 cup mashed butternut squash (buttered and brown-sugared = 150) + 1/2 cup steamed green peas (60) + 1/4 cup cranberry sauce (110) + 2 tablespoons gravy (~50) = 730
Dessert: Skinny Cow Salted Caramel Pretzel Frozen Candy Bar (160)
Week 14 Weigh-In:
Starting Weight: 210
Week 1 Weight: 201.4 (down 8.6)
Week 2 Weight: 199.4 (down 2.0)
Week 3 Weight: 199 (down 0.4)
Week 4 Weight: 196 (down 3)
Week 5 Weight: 194.4 (down 1.6)
Week 6 Weight: 193 (down 1.4)
Week 7 Weight: 192 (down 1)
Week 8 Weight: 188.8 (down 3.2)
Week 9 Weight: 187.6 (down 1.2)
Week 10 Weight: 186.4 (down 1.2)
Week 11 Weight: 186.4 (same)
Week 12 Weight: 186 (down .4)
Week 13 Weight: 183.6 (down 2.4)
Week 14 Weight: 183.2 (down .4)
Total Pounds Lost: 26.8 pounds
This week, Mom wanted to write a bit about the things I talked about in my Life Post.
“I want to start by saying that this piece is just to explain my way of doing things and to share how I’ve felt about certain situations. It’s really not intended to be anything other than an explanation of who I am. Secondly, as always, thank you for your fantastic comments and beautiful support.
In my first marriage to Andrea and Anthony’s father, I had to take a lot of control of many situations. One very frustrating thing for me was the wasted talent that my husband Robert lived with. He was everything to me and I relied heavily on him always being so strong and dependable. He worked as a Graphic Design Artist, and was very talented in all artistic abilities. He was intelligent and well read. He could carry on a conversation with anyone and he never ever lost an argument. I spent my early married life encouraging him to continue schooling, maybe to go on for an engineering degree, because I knew he could do it, as he had no problems with school work. He did attend college for a while and always managed to get A’s. There was nothing he couldn’t do. He fought me tooth and nail about this and never listened to me. He constantly told me that more schooling was unnecessary and he didn’t need it. He remained stagnant and this killed me. How do you watch someone who you have so much faith in, who you pull so much inspiration from, just do nothing? Later I realized that I should have taken his opportunity and done something for myself, like gone to school, because I see now that I had the energy and determination that he lacked. Because of a terrible childhood, he never felt good about himself. I was lucky to have come from a wonderful home with very determined parents who pushed you to be your best.
Along comes Andrea (we won’t get into Anthony because I don’t want to invade his privacy. He is a wonderful son and I am very proud of him.) Andrea got her artistic ability from her Dad. She can draw anything, paint anything, create anything, and at times, she has blown me away with her art work. Sometimes she’d draw things for other people, and I would be so amazed by them that I had to keep them for myself. This ability for art came in very handy when she was in school. She would spend hours doing projects and always got a good grade. Her art skills proved very helpful when she worked behind the scenes of Shutter Island and How Do You Know? She also has a beautiful voice and at a young age I decided to do something with that talent. I enrolled her at the Boston Conservatory of Music. She fought me hard every week when she had to go for her lessons, and never sang in front of me from that day forward. Heartbreaking for me, as I would sit quietly and grab any opportunity to hear her sing at home or in the car, when she didn’t realize that I was listening. One day, she decided that maybe she could use that singing ability and told me that she would try out for American Idol, as auditions were taking place in a town fifteen minutes from where we lived. That opportunity came and went, she did nothing, and I was disappointed, but I did not say anything to her. The next year she told me she was going to try out for American Idol and she really convinced me that this time she meant it. So I researched it with her and made plans, took time off from work, reviewed hotels and travel and was so excited that she was taking on this challenge. Two days before we were going to go she changed her mind and no doubt got cold feet. Her stage fright is paralyzing. I told her nicely that we were going and we would make the best of it. My feelings at this time were simple: as a parent, if you don’t push your kids (for some things) they will let you know when they are older that you didn’t support them; I was not going to let this happen. Andrea and I set out for a long drive to Philadelphia, and had the time of our lives. We stood in 10 hour lines for two days in a row, one to get an audition number and one to wait for her chance to audition. I will say this that what you see on TV is a far cry from what a contestant goes through. It is tiring and trying at best. They have you spend long hours and it is a three day commitment. You have to sing the chorus of the song, and if they like you they let you sing twice. They let Andrea sing two songs, as the guy no doubt thought she had a nice voice, but was terribly nervous. She did not get picked but she tried out and I am so proud of her for taking that chance and allowing me to be there with her. As I said, we had a great time despite the outcome and really loved Philadelphia and everything we saw in the three day excursion we planned — we stayed at a nice hotel in downtown Philly and ate at awesome restaurants. We laughed and we endured, and I never even heard Andrea sing a note that whole time as the audience does not get to hear the singers as we have to sit so far away in the stands.
All her life, Andrea was a good student and when she went to school UMass Amherst, she was accepted into the Commonwealth College, the honors program. I was so happy, until Andrea informed me that she wasn’t going to bother accepting this honor because it wasn’t that important to her. Wasn’t I so sad that she didn’t realize the significance of this achievement. I did push on this one, but I lost. I will forever regret that she missed this opportunity.
Andrea was very fortunate to meet a wonderful person who introduced her to and gave her the opportunity to work behind the scenes of film. Lori is a beautiful, kind-hearted person who took a chance on Andrea. She worked hard, long days into nights and many weekends, but enjoyed each and every day. She meet great people. She learned a lot. She got to do so much, and worked directly with Academy Award winning production designer and set decorator. She met the actors (Leonardo DiCaprio and Mark Ruffalo are my favorites) and had the chance to talk with them and watch them film scenes. I loved every story she shared with me, every fun detail, and every thing she got to do for the film. Each night she would tell me about her day and I was not only so happy for her excitement but delighted to hear her stories. This was perfect because here was my artist daughter working in an artistic environment — how appropriate. Lots of times, she had to change cities and relocate on short notice, and her stepfather and I moved her and loved the new challenges that brought to her life. Fortunately I didn’t have to have anxiety as Daniel would be moving with her to Philadelphia and Connecticut. She enjoyed herself and I enjoyed seeing her so involved in something that I know she excelled at. When the last film ended abruptly due to behind the scenes changes, she decided to stop doing this line of work and told me that she was going to start a blog. What the heck was a blog? I wasn’t too happy as I didn’t see this as a chance for her to do something important with her life. I didn’t know any better as I barely use the computer at all. I just wanted my little girl to work toward a future that included health insurance, a retirement plan, and so on. Well I was wrong, the blog is a passion for her and isn’t that what you want for your child? For them to do something that they’re passionate about?
I admit I am controlling in some ways, but I had to be. I am somewhat of a perfectionist, but I never expect more than I can do from anyone, not even my children. I want the best for them! I did not expect the sadness and tough times that they were dealt with as young kids. I regret that I missed many opportunities with them. I had to work a lot and Andrea and Anthony suffered for that, big time. I spent any and all free time trying to make it up to them, and will forever be trying to do that. When your children are sad, you rack your brain trying to think of what you could have or should have done better. I am so lucky that Andrea (despite the depression) and Anthony never took the wrong road and always strove to do the right things. Andrea is 100% right about how I have high expectations for her! I do. I see things that she doesn’t see in herself, I know about her talents, and her shortcomings. I only want what I know she wants and I will never ever stand in the way of her happiness.
I love you, Francie, and will always be proud of you for going after your dreams!!!!!!!
Andie note: Mom, thanks for this. I hear you. I get you. I love you.
Everyone, Mom and I are going to be super normal from now on (but probably unsuccessfully) and shift the spotlight back to food, weight loss, and some new recipes. We have to refrain from talking about ourselves in such crazy depth for a little while, because I can’t even handle how much of us is out there, flapping in the wind right now. I’m having a vulnerability hangover.
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